Accepting Change
Accept change and be ready to adapt to changing lives, situations, and conditions. The more we shy away from change the more we remain the same and stagnant. We become stuck.
I have been a victim of this. Staying in a place beyond your welcome. Overstaying the visit in a relationship that is no longer working. One that died years ago. Are you still waiting for miracles?
You have tried everything, and your parents and his parents have sat both of you down and talked and tried to reconcile you but that did not produce results either.
Do not overstay your welcome in a job either. Once I used to complain to my husband daily how frustrated and unhappy I was in my job. He told me “You know you can resign that job; you don’t have to stay.” That day a light bulb went off in my head.
When I reported to work, the first thing that I did was to type in my resignation and send it to the manager. Then I searched and applied for another job that was a better fit for me.
That was the best decision I ever made. I left a high strung, physically, mentally, and emotionally draining job for something good and manageable.
Focus on things you can control and change. Focus on what you can change. Things like diet, exercise, sleep, to improve your physical and mental health.
Make choices that are good for your mental and physical health. Invest in yourself. Do not focus on things like age as you cannot do anything about that. To become mentally strong, you should focus on what you can change.
Likewise, you cannot control the decisions other people make. You cannot make someone love you. You cannot make your man choose to be home with you, instead of being away with “friends”.
That is a decision he makes whether you like to accept that or not. You can only control yourself, what you do and/or do not do. You can decide to honor your marriage vows but cannot force the other person to do the same.
Trying to control everything leads to anxiety, waste of time, becoming a control freak, being judgmental, and being overworked.
𝑰𝒇 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒍𝒆𝒕 𝒈𝒐 𝒂 𝒍𝒊𝒕𝒕𝒍𝒆, 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒘𝒊𝒍𝒍 𝒉𝒂𝒗𝒆 𝒂 𝒍𝒊𝒕𝒕𝒍𝒆 𝒑𝒆𝒂𝒄𝒆. 𝑰𝒇 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒍𝒆𝒕 𝒈𝒐 𝒂 𝒍𝒐𝒕, 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒘𝒊𝒍𝒍 𝒉𝒂𝒗𝒆 𝒂 𝒍𝒐𝒕 𝒐𝒇 𝒑𝒆𝒂𝒄𝒆. 𝑰𝒇 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒍𝒆𝒕 𝒈𝒐 𝒄𝒐𝒎𝒑𝒍𝒆𝒕𝒆𝒍𝒚, 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒘𝒊𝒍𝒍 𝒉𝒂𝒗𝒆 𝒄𝒐𝒎𝒑𝒍𝒆𝒕𝒆 𝒑𝒆𝒂𝒄𝒆. – 𝑨𝒋𝒂𝒉𝒏 𝑪𝒉𝒂𝒉