STARTING OVER
STARTING OVER
𝑰𝒇 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒆𝒗𝒆𝒓 𝒈𝒆𝒕 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒄𝒉𝒂𝒏𝒄𝒆, 𝒈𝒐 𝒂𝒍𝒐𝒏𝒆. 𝑾𝒂𝒍𝒌 𝒂𝒍𝒐𝒏𝒆, 𝒕𝒓𝒂𝒗𝒆𝒍 𝒂𝒍𝒐𝒏𝒆, 𝒍𝒊𝒗𝒆 𝒂𝒍𝒐𝒏𝒆., 𝒅𝒂𝒏𝒄𝒆 𝒂𝒍𝒐𝒏𝒆. 𝑱𝒖𝒔𝒕 𝒇𝒐𝒓 𝒂 𝒘𝒉𝒊𝒍𝒆. 𝑰𝒇 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒆𝒗𝒆𝒓 𝒈𝒆𝒕 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒄𝒉𝒂𝒏𝒄𝒆, 𝒍𝒆𝒂𝒓𝒏 𝒘𝒉𝒐 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒂𝒓𝒆 𝒘𝒉𝒆𝒏 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒘𝒐𝒓𝒍𝒅 𝒊𝒔𝒏’𝒕 𝒅𝒆𝒎𝒂𝒏𝒅𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒃𝒆 𝒐𝒏𝒆 𝒘𝒂𝒚 𝒐𝒓 𝒂𝒏𝒐𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒓. 𝑾𝒉𝒆𝒏 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒈𝒆𝒕 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒄𝒉𝒂𝒏𝒄𝒆, 𝒌𝒏𝒐𝒘 𝒕𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒐𝒑𝒑𝒐𝒓𝒕𝒖𝒏𝒊𝒕𝒚 𝒕𝒐 𝒘𝒂𝒍𝒌 𝒂𝒍𝒐𝒏𝒆, 𝒆𝒗𝒆𝒏 𝒇𝒐𝒓 𝒂 𝒃𝒊𝒕, 𝒊𝒔 𝒂 𝒓𝒂𝒓𝒆 𝒈𝒊𝒇𝒕, 𝒐𝒏𝒆 𝒕𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒘𝒊𝒍𝒍 𝒉𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒊𝒏𝒔𝒊𝒈𝒉𝒕 𝒕𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒄𝒂𝒏 𝒄𝒉𝒂𝒏𝒈𝒆 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒄𝒐𝒖𝒓𝒔𝒆 𝒐𝒇 𝒚𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒍𝒊𝒇𝒆. – 𝑩𝒓𝒊𝒂𝒏𝒏𝒂 𝑾𝒊𝒆𝒔𝒕.
Some people will tolerate abuse and name calling rather than calling it quits in a marriage. You have been able to quit, but the challenge now is being alone.
Friends disappear for reasons you do not understand. Maybe they do not know how to handle it, what to say to you, or they think you need space. Do not blame them.
Work on yourself. It is easy to feel like you want to go back, because it is lonely, and you had memories together. You have kids. Maybe you are looking at old photos or heard familiar music that remind you of him. And you miss him. It’s normal.
It will get better. Look hard at yourself and decide what you deserve. Are you better with him or without him? Do you want to go back? Some people put conditions before going back, I have been there too, hoping that this time things would be better. Different.
It is all up to you. You are the only one who knows where the shoe pinches.
Being single is not the worst thing that can happen to you. Think about it. You could be sick or jobless, or in an accident, or worse. It may turn out to be the best thing that happened to you. Plenty of testimonials out there.
Feelings of guilt, loneliness, and regret are not going to disappear immediately. You were in a relationship for some time, give yourself time to heal.
This is not time to meet new people, find new friends, and invite people over to your house to hang out. You do not need any pity parties. This is a time to reflect.
Go out of course, have fun, visit the sick, volunteer, play with kids, be busy, but at the end of the day, be by yourself and reflect on your situation. Look at the pros and cons and learn to forgive yourself daily.
𝑾𝒉𝒆𝒏 𝒂 𝒘𝒐𝒎𝒂𝒏 𝒓𝒊𝒔𝒆𝒔 𝒖𝒑 𝒊𝒏 𝑮𝒍𝒐𝒓𝒚, 𝒉𝒆𝒓 𝒆𝒏𝒆𝒓𝒈𝒚 𝒊𝒔 𝑴𝒂𝒈𝒏𝒆𝒕𝒊𝒄, 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒉𝒆𝒓 𝒔𝒆𝒏𝒔𝒆 𝒐𝒇 𝑷𝒐𝒔𝒔𝒊𝒃𝒊𝒍𝒊𝒕𝒚 𝒊𝒔 𝒄𝒐𝒏𝒕𝒂𝒈𝒊𝒐𝒖𝒔 – 𝑴𝒂𝒓𝒊𝒂𝒏𝒏𝒆 𝑾𝒊𝒍𝒍𝒊𝒂𝒎𝒔𝒐𝒏