Insecurity

“𝑬𝒗𝒆𝒓𝒚𝒃𝒐𝒅𝒚 𝒉𝒂𝒔 𝒂 𝒑𝒂𝒓𝒕 𝒐𝒇 𝒉𝒆𝒓 𝒃𝒐𝒅𝒚 𝒕𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒔𝒉𝒆 𝒅𝒐𝒆𝒔𝒏’𝒕 𝒍𝒊𝒌𝒆, 𝒃𝒖𝒕 𝑰’𝒗𝒆 𝒔𝒕𝒐𝒑𝒑𝒆𝒅 𝒄𝒐𝒎𝒑𝒍𝒂𝒊𝒏𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒂𝒃𝒐𝒖𝒕 𝒎𝒊𝒏𝒆 𝒃𝒆𝒄𝒂𝒖𝒔𝒆 𝑰 𝒅𝒐𝒏’𝒕 𝒘𝒂𝒏𝒕 𝒕𝒐 𝒄𝒓𝒊𝒕𝒊𝒒𝒖𝒆 𝒏𝒂𝒕𝒖𝒓𝒆’𝒔 𝒉𝒂𝒏𝒅𝒊𝒘𝒐𝒓𝒌 … 𝑴𝒚 𝒋𝒐𝒃 𝒊𝒔 𝒔𝒊𝒎𝒑𝒍𝒚 𝒕𝒐 𝒂𝒍𝒍𝒐𝒘 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒍𝒊𝒈𝒉𝒕 𝒕𝒐 𝒔𝒉𝒊𝒏𝒆 𝒐𝒖𝒕 𝒐𝒇 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒎𝒂𝒔𝒕𝒆𝒓𝒑𝒊𝒆𝒄𝒆.” — 𝑨𝒍𝒇𝒓𝒆 𝑾𝒐𝒐𝒅𝒂𝒓𝒅

“𝑫𝒐𝒏’𝒕 𝒘𝒂𝒔𝒕𝒆 𝒔𝒐 𝒎𝒖𝒄𝒉 𝒕𝒊𝒎𝒆 𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒏𝒌𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒂𝒃𝒐𝒖𝒕 𝒉𝒐𝒘 𝒎𝒖𝒄𝒉 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒘𝒆𝒊𝒈𝒉. 𝑻𝒉𝒆𝒓𝒆 𝒊𝒔 𝒏𝒐 𝒎𝒐𝒓𝒆 𝒎𝒊𝒏𝒅-𝒏𝒖𝒎𝒃𝒊𝒏𝒈, 𝒃𝒐𝒓𝒊𝒏𝒈, 𝒊𝒅𝒊𝒐𝒕𝒊𝒄, 𝒔𝒆𝒍𝒇-𝒅𝒆𝒔𝒕𝒓𝒖𝒄𝒕𝒊𝒗𝒆 𝒅𝒊𝒗𝒆𝒓𝒔𝒊𝒐𝒏 𝒇𝒓𝒐𝒎 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒇𝒖𝒏 𝒐𝒇 𝒍𝒊𝒗𝒊𝒏𝒈.” — 𝑴𝒆𝒓𝒚𝒍 𝑺𝒕𝒓𝒆𝒆𝒑

To be confident and aim for independence, you need to be in love with yourself and that includes being in love with the body that you have. We cannot all look like Beyonce, it would be boring, but we can be ourselves. There is beauty in being different. You are able to admire the other person without wanting to look like them.

That is how we are able to admire and want to be in a relationship with the opposite sex. We are so different and yet we hope to live together and love each other. Any time you become insecure and feel like you do not look good, or look young, or skinny, remember that there is someone out there who admires you, and love you just the way you are. That might be your mother, father, siblings, or your children. They will not want you to look like anyone else. They want you to remain you, because that is what they love. YOU.

As you get older start admiring those wrinkles when they appear, it shows that you have live. Those grey hairs that appear when you are still in your thirties are disheartening, but again, they augment your overall look. Start embracing them, instead of hating yourself. You are not your grey hair, you are better than that. You are you.

When those love handles start to appear and refuse to go away no matter how hard you try to diet, then understand that you are going through life and hormones and other things are playing trick on your body. Take care of your health and embrace who you are becoming, looks, body shape, body size and all.

Comparing and hating yourself will only further feed into your general insecurity. The feeling that you are inadequate. You are not as good as ….. The other woman is more beautiful, more smart, more educated, younger, and with the perfect figure. No.

You do not know her story. You do not know her insecurities, sickness, fears or inadequacies that she is going through. Do not waste your time thinking or comparing yourself to her or to others. You were made perfect. Look at that mirror and start loving the person looking back at you.

“𝑻𝒐 𝒍𝒐𝒗𝒆 𝒚𝒐𝒖𝒓𝒔𝒆𝒍𝒇 𝒂𝒔 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒂𝒓𝒆 𝒊𝒔 𝒂 𝒎𝒊𝒓𝒂𝒄𝒍𝒆, 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒕𝒐 𝒔𝒆𝒆𝒌 𝒚𝒐𝒖𝒓𝒔𝒆𝒍𝒇 𝒊𝒔 𝒕𝒐 𝒉𝒂𝒗𝒆 𝒇𝒐𝒖𝒏𝒅 𝒚𝒐𝒖𝒓𝒔𝒆𝒍𝒇, 𝒇𝒐𝒓 𝒏𝒐𝒘. 𝑨𝒏𝒅 𝒏𝒐𝒘 𝒊𝒔 𝒂𝒍𝒍 𝒘𝒆 𝒉𝒂𝒗𝒆, 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒍𝒐𝒗𝒆 𝒊𝒔 𝒘𝒉𝒐 𝒘𝒆 𝒂𝒓𝒆.” — 𝑨𝒏𝒏𝒆 𝑳𝒂𝒎𝒐

“𝑬𝒂𝒄𝒉 𝒊𝒏𝒅𝒊𝒗𝒊𝒅𝒖𝒂𝒍 𝒘𝒐𝒎𝒂𝒏’𝒔 𝒃𝒐𝒅𝒚 𝒅𝒆𝒎𝒂𝒏𝒅𝒔 𝒕𝒐 𝒃𝒆 𝒂𝒄𝒄𝒆𝒑𝒕𝒆𝒅 𝒐𝒏 𝒊𝒕𝒔 𝒐𝒘𝒏 𝒕𝒆𝒓𝒎𝒔.” — 𝑮𝒍𝒐𝒓𝒊𝒂 𝑺𝒕𝒆𝒊𝒏𝒆𝒎𝒕𝒕