Don’t be Enviousβ€”cheer them

Written By Rael Eckenroed

Are you Envious? Don’t be. You do you.

β€œπ‘Ίπ’Šπ’π’ˆπ’π’† π’Šπ’” 𝒏𝒐 π’π’π’π’ˆπ’†π’“ 𝒂 π’π’‚π’„π’Œ 𝒐𝒇 π’π’‘π’•π’Šπ’π’π’” – 𝒃𝒖𝒕 𝒂 π’„π’‰π’π’Šπ’„π’†. 𝑨 π’„π’‰π’π’Šπ’„π’† 𝒕𝒐 𝒓𝒆𝒇𝒖𝒔𝒆 𝒕𝒐 𝒍𝒆𝒕 π’šπ’π’–π’“ π’π’Šπ’‡π’† 𝒃𝒆 π’…π’†π’‡π’Šπ’π’†π’… π’ƒπ’š π’šπ’π’–π’“ π’“π’†π’π’‚π’•π’Šπ’π’π’”π’‰π’Šπ’‘ 𝒔𝒕𝒂𝒕𝒖𝒔 𝒃𝒖𝒕 𝒕𝒐 π’π’Šπ’—π’† π’†π’—π’†π’“π’š π’…π’‚π’š π‘―π’‚π’‘π’‘π’Šπ’π’š 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒍𝒆𝒕 π’šπ’π’–π’“ 𝑬𝒗𝒆𝒓 𝑨𝒇𝒕𝒆𝒓 π’˜π’π’“π’Œ π’Šπ’•π’”π’†π’π’‡ 𝒐𝒖𝒕.” ― π‘΄π’‚π’π’…π’š 𝑯𝒂𝒍𝒆

Are all your college mates married or in steady relationships? Do you look around you and everyone has somebody except you? Are you the perpetual bridesmaid and you have watched all your girlfriends getting married? Are you under pressure to bring someone home because all your younger sisters are married?

Don’t be. Know that most of those in relationships and marriages are looking at you with envy. They envy the freedom that you have. They envy the fact that you can do so much; travel, visit places, start projects, and just be carefree. They envy the fact that nothing and no one is trying to pull you down, and you go to bed peaceful enjoying your sleep. They envy that no one is calling you names, disregarding you, or ignoring you.

They cannot share their pain because they do not want to spoil the picture-perfect relationship they seem to have. The 'status' or being married or 'in a relationship'. They need to continue living the lie, so they continue acting perfect buddies with their boyfriends/husbands when in reality they are fighting over everything from children, to finances, to personal freedom, infidelity, and household expenditures.

Life is hard for couples currently. Budgets do not balance out and the stress to families is getting worse by the day. At least when you are by yourself, you know how you can budget and stay the course. You can make your money work for you. You decide what to do and when, and you honor your priorities.

Before you start envying others, be grateful for the peace you have, the ability to tune out everything and go to bed in peace. Be grateful that you can wake up and make your own decisions without having to think about 3-4 or more people, both big and small people.

You can still cheer your sisters who have achieved milestones or a life that you have been dreaming of having as you work through your journey. We are all on different paths to where we want to go. Sometimes the destination seems similar to those around us, but the route to get there is different. Some people reach there faster than others, while others take many detours. In the end you might reach your destination. And because life is unpredictable, sometimes some people may not reach their destinations. In that case it is better to enjoy the journey as you travel it. Have fun, as you continue pursuing your purpose.

My advice, you do you. Be happy with what you have. Enjoy your freedom. Travel, save, tour, and think of what your purpose is. When you find your purpose, you will realize that you have been preparing for it your whole life. You do you and be happy.

𝒀𝒐𝒖 𝒂𝒍𝒐𝒏𝒆 𝒂𝒓𝒆 π’†π’π’π’–π’ˆπ’‰. 𝒀𝒐𝒖 𝒉𝒂𝒗𝒆 π’π’π’•π’‰π’Šπ’π’ˆ 𝒕𝒐 𝒑𝒓𝒐𝒗𝒆 𝒕𝒐 π’‚π’π’šπ’ƒπ’π’…π’š. - π‘΄π’‚π’šπ’‚ π‘¨π’π’ˆπ’†π’π’π’–

Rael Eckenroed
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