you can think for yourself

You can think for yourself!

𝑻𝒉𝒆 𝒌𝒆𝒚 𝒊𝒔 𝒕𝒐 𝒏𝒆𝒗𝒆𝒓 𝒍𝒆𝒕 𝒔𝒐𝒎𝒆𝒐𝒏𝒆 𝒆𝒍𝒔𝒆 𝒕𝒆𝒍𝒍 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒘𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒕𝒐 𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒏𝒌.”

― 𝑺𝒖𝒔𝒂𝒏 𝑴𝒆𝒊𝒔𝒔𝒏𝒆𝒓

“𝑾𝒉𝒆𝒏 𝒂𝒓𝒆 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒈𝒐𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒕𝒐 𝒔𝒕𝒐𝒑 𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒏𝒌𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒂𝒃𝒐𝒖𝒕 𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒏𝒈𝒔 𝒕𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒅𝒐𝒏'𝒕 𝒎𝒂𝒕𝒕𝒆𝒓 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒔𝒕𝒂𝒓𝒕 𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒏𝒌𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒂𝒃𝒐𝒖𝒕 𝒘𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒍𝒊𝒆𝒔 𝒂𝒉𝒆𝒂𝒅 𝒇𝒐𝒓 𝒚𝒐𝒖?”

― 𝑴𝒂𝒅𝒆𝒍𝒆𝒊𝒏𝒆 𝑩𝒓𝒆𝒏𝒕

Are people around you always telling you what to do? Your parents, brothers, older sisters, or bossy friends. Are you always doing what you are being told? Or asking for suggestions all the time on what to do next? Are you often undecided?

You can figure things out and you can make decisions. You already made a most difficult decision to leave a marriage. Being alone should not mean being incapable of making good decisions. If you have been told before that you can’t and that you shouldn’t, this is the time to say to yourself that you can and you will. Maybe you were in a relationship where the man made all the decisions and your job was to follow the orders or his suggestions. It is time now to take up the responsibility of making all the decisions that affect your life.

We use our minds to worry, obsess, and second guess everything. We wonder if we made the correct decision. Start regaining your power.

10 points will help you think for yourself regardless of what others are thinking.

Listen to your needs and wants, do not discount them, and do not be ashamed of them.

Do not be in denial. Stop lying to yourself by making excuses for yourself and for others.

Stop worrying about what other people will think.

Evaluate criticism you receive and trash those that bring you down.

When you decide, stick to it, if it proves to be a wrong decision, learn from it. Mistakes are part of life. You will be wiser.

Do not second guess yourself, trust your instincts.

You are allowed to change your mind repeatedly, do not let people tell you that you cannot change your mind.

Feed your mind with good thoughts. Make good decisions on what to read, watch, see, smell, touch, and feel. If it is not going to make you feel good, do not indulge in it.

Let others think what they want to think, it is their business. Even if they think that you are making a mistake.

Evaluate your decisions from time to time to stay on track, or rethink of a better decision and implement it.

“𝒀𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒕𝒉𝒐𝒖𝒈𝒉𝒕𝒔 𝒉𝒂𝒗𝒆 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒑𝒐𝒘𝒆𝒓 𝒕𝒐 𝒄𝒐𝒏𝒕𝒓𝒐𝒍; 𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒃𝒆𝒊𝒏𝒈, 𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒆𝒎𝒐𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏𝒔, 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒘𝒂𝒚 𝒘𝒆 𝒗𝒊𝒆𝒘 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒘𝒐𝒓𝒍𝒅 𝒕𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒔𝒖𝒓𝒓𝒐𝒖𝒏𝒅𝒔 𝒖𝒔. 𝑰𝒇 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒅𝒐𝒏'𝒕 𝒄𝒐𝒏𝒔𝒕𝒂𝒏𝒕𝒍𝒚 𝒓𝒆-𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒏𝒌 𝒘𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒏𝒌 𝒐𝒇 𝒐𝒏 𝒂 𝒅𝒂𝒊𝒍𝒚 𝒃𝒂𝒔𝒊𝒔, 𝒉𝒐𝒘 𝒅𝒐 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒆𝒗𝒆𝒓 𝒆𝒙𝒑𝒆𝒄𝒕 𝒕𝒐 𝒆𝒗𝒐𝒍𝒗𝒆 𝒊𝒏𝒕𝒐 𝒂 𝒃𝒆𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒐𝒇; 𝒘𝒊𝒔𝒅𝒐𝒎, 𝒕𝒓𝒖𝒕𝒉, 𝒖𝒏𝒅𝒆𝒓𝒔𝒕𝒂𝒏𝒅𝒊𝒏𝒈, 𝒍𝒐𝒗𝒆, 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒂𝒃𝒐𝒗𝒆 𝒂𝒍𝒍, 𝒕𝒐 𝒃𝒆 𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒓𝒆 𝒇𝒐𝒓 𝒐𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒓𝒔?”

― 𝑴𝒂𝒓𝒕𝒊𝒏 𝑹. 𝑳𝒆𝒎𝒊𝒆𝒖𝒙

“𝑰 𝒂𝒎 𝒏𝒐𝒕 𝒒𝒖𝒆𝒔𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝑮𝒐𝒅'𝒔 𝒑𝒐𝒘𝒆𝒓! 𝑰𝒕 𝒊𝒔 𝑮𝒐𝒅 𝒘𝒉𝒐 𝒈𝒂𝒗𝒆 𝒖𝒔 𝒓𝒆𝒂𝒔𝒐𝒏 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒄𝒊𝒓𝒄𝒖𝒎𝒔𝒑𝒆𝒄𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏! 𝑰𝒕 𝒊𝒔 𝑮𝒐𝒅 𝒘𝒆 𝒔𝒆𝒓𝒗𝒆 𝒃𝒚 𝒆𝒙𝒆𝒓𝒄𝒊𝒔𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒑𝒓𝒖𝒅𝒆𝒏𝒄𝒆!”

― 𝑫𝒂𝒏 𝑩𝒓𝒐𝒘𝒏